choice of means

More than ever this era provides infinite (N) no: of things at our disposal\\ 

But we are still at loggerheads in our choice of means of work.Generally we go into either private or public sector as engineers or technicians or doctors & lawyers.Some are in police &rest in teaching.But the big question is whether we can all go & pursue our different  vocations without any peer/parental pressures even today,it seems a moot point.Because we  are denied this choice by either parental Or professional bias that a doctors son is a doctor /lawyers son is lawyer & so on,many are denied this basic choice & relegated to menial jobs. If in the light of future advancement should we enter a robotic era, where all except important jobs like Doctor, lawyer & police are taken up by robots , should we not be allowed a more comprehensive choice of job that suits our inclinations & skill than traditional lines.

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Life Strategies: Doing What Works, Doing What Matters

by Phillip C. McGraw

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Whether it's a bad relationship, a dead-end career, or a harmful habit, Dr. McGraw's 10 Life Laws will empower you to take responsibility for your own actions and break free from self-destructive patterns. Drawing upon more than fifteen years of experience, Dr. McGraw explores each of the 10 Life Laws necessary to succeed:

Life Law #1: You either get it, or you don't.


Strategy: Become one of those who get it.

Life Law #2: You create your own experience.


Strategy: Acknowledge and accept accountability for your life.

Life Law #3: People do what works.


Strategy: Identify the payoffs that drive your behavior and that of others.

Life Law #4: You cannot change what you do not acknowledge.


Strategy: Get real with yourself about your life and everybody in it.

Life Law #5: Life rewards action.


Strategy: Make careful decisions and then pull the trigger.

Life Law #6: There is no reality; only perception.


Strategy: Identify the filters through which you view the world.

Life Law #7: Life is managed; it is not cured.


Strategy: Learn to take charge of your life.

Life Law #8: We teach people how to treat us.


Strategy: Own, rather than complain about, how people treat you.

Life Law #9: There is power in forgiveness.


Strategy: Open your eyes to what anger and resentment are doing to you.

Life Law #10: You have to name it before you can claim it.


Strategy: Get clear about what you want and take your turn.

society's role models

continuing the theme of self & social relations,what do you call as collective consciousness.Is it a conscience of a society or individual conscious entity.Beware the moral policing of the collective conscience is more adept at enslaving men with dogma than any other force on earth.what passes as moral is not a individual virtue anymore but of few rules and obligations masquerading as values in society.whether it is about child labor or atrocities against women what plays key role in mitigating the evils of society is again an institution of moral police of the collective conscience rather than individual attempts. society cannot save us from this but only men can be free themselves by individual awareness.

women act as opposite polarity to men .so there is a question of finding the truce between them in marriage. As and when we can neutralize the polarity between them we will be more grounded & stable.Therefore finding stability & equilibrium is done through marriage,from ancient times. Those who transcend this polarity are ABLE to forgo marriage but for average men &women there is need for marriage to survive the instability. AS such it is regarded as sacred ritual in our lives for times to come.

social ostracism & marginalisation

There is a calamitous trend of individual dissociation with milieu and society around. It is rather dangerous that" Social Milieu" is being positioned as antagonistic to "Self" hence a trend to keep 'Self' away and aloof from it.Individuals cannot be blamed for it. Social milieu is so obnoxious now, with individuals facing loads of extreme attitudes, nasty demeanor, rejection, snap-abandonment, shallow and shaky relationships ET AL.Self and society have mutual benefit, they work as natural wellness support system for each other but, as we have entered a stage of evolution, where unprecedented complexities, conflicts and negative dualism greet us on daily basis, the wellness has become the worst victim.Still, the contemporary cherished choice of burdening the "self‟ with all responsibilities of wellness-sanity-rationality is tough; it is not the way we have been designed and evolved.Please do accept humbly and innocently that isolation and keeping aloof from the natural support system of wellness is not an instinctive and innate positioning of your consciousness, it is purely a cultural one; that too a recent one.It is an unnatural societal and cultural benchmark of success and achievement to hide one's troubles from people. The pop icons may opt to hush up when they go to a hospital as they are in this business of happiness. Not an average person.Remember, how does a revolution happen? How big changes take place in societies against the prevailing powerful norms and benchmarks? Understand this energy. When one single pain and sorrow is owned and personalized by every single citizen of a nation or society; revolutions happen and are always successful.When an individual pain becomes a collective pain of millions and the emotions of millions become one single expression, revolutions happen and are always successful.The trouble, we have in all societies and in all nations, emanate out of our cultural consciousness of being one and singular with collectivism only in our joys and celebration but never ever in pain.Revolutions and big changes have become extinct. They may look like beginning but die an infant death. We all as a collective have lost the innate magical art of merging our subjective and personalized consciousnesses into one singular, objective and collective consciousness at times of crisis and trouble.Ask the uncomfortable question to you and everyone – we say my society, culture and nation is in crisis, however, are they one with my own pain and crisis? Do I reflect in the crisis of collectivism?‟ What is the major voice as an answer?" It seems, it is invariably no! That is why,even when things are in bad shape around us, nothing seems to change and no involvement is orchestrated!The simple but painful fact seems to be; we have stopped being natural and surrendered our consciousness to the popular cultural benchmarks, which stand as an unnatural and calamitous energy. We need to see this with an open eye and innocent hearts. We need to re initiate and re-invent the art we have lost. We need to be one in our pains, even when we smile in solitude!

Let your pain be my pain and be ever willing to reciprocate. Let the "natural wellness-support-system"

unravel its magic. Let the pains and crises build a beautiful and affectionate bridge between you and me. Let the sharing begin. Let pain and crises join rhythms, to create a symphony of sympathetic solidarity, which shall fill up all empty spaces of hearts. Let this revolution happen!Let us allow ourselves the innocence and compassion to share our pains with each other. This is one art, we all have lost. Being strong does not mean, we cannot cry together. If we can laugh together, that too in an affected and forced tones, why cannot we weep together in a genuine and innocently sincere heart-assimilation. Let us redeem and reinvent our lost art of social sharing of pain and grief. We can get back our lost wellness.

We are designed this way and have done it since millions of years. This new culture of isolation,egoistic solitude and celebrity-like aloofness is a sure killer of our wellness. We are strong and robust people. We have the courage and confidence to be an innocent and fallible thing and show it to the world. Being what you are and how you are is the intelligence of innocence, which need the ultimate courage and confidence. Show it to everyone that you have it in loads.

Query Yourself:

Am I equally good at sharing my joys as well as pains?Do I have the artistry to associate people with my downtime emotions?Do I have enough people to share my pains and do I reciprocate the same?**

The Questions to reflect:

 •What to do & what not to do? •Why we are here & why can’t we be there? •Whom to say & what to say? •Why are you making a living without living it? •WHERE have you been since you are here? •Whoever lived to see the light never managed to “live in the dark”. •What is the best part is never in the knowing (or) saying but in the experience of it. •What can we do with what we can’t do? Just Leave it. •“What are you when you are not there with you”? •Where can you find peace which is not of the world?# World peace is contradictory. •What amount of money do you want to make? • What places would you like to visit in the world? • What type of job would you like to do each day? • What would your perfect day look like in terms of how you spent your time and what you were doing? • What are the characteristics of your perfect spouse? • What do you want to look like? • What do you want to give back to the world? • What do you want to be known for? • What are the things you believe in most? • What people can help you get to where you want to go? • What are the things you would like to have? • What are the most exciting things you’d like to try? • What events would you like to go to? • What type of house do you want to have? • What people would you like to meet? • What amount of money do you want to have at retirement? • What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail? • What things would have to happen in order to accomplish that huge dream? • What do you want people to think of when they think of you? • What people do you want to spend most of your time with?